In my efforts to find a topic to blog about today, at least three stories popped up when I searched Google regarding divorce related to suicides and murders. There is a saying in the family law community that family lawyers get to see good people at their worst and criminal attorneys get to see bad people at their best. I see people in all states, from irrationally angry to severely depressed. When going through a divorce or family legal crisis, it is imperative that you lean upon close friends/family and seek professional help if the stress of the situation is too much for you to bear. Get into a support group, stay away from drugs and alcohol and make sure not to act on emotion. Remember that things do get better and be proactive about finding realistic solutions to problems instead of burying them or trying to ignore them. There is no question that divorce is stressful and that after divorce your life will not look the same. Embrace the change in a positive way and try to fix only those things that you have the power to fix. If you have a controlling ex-spouse, know that this will not change and find new ways to deal with them. If you have a tremendous amount of debt, know that this won't change without a plan. If you and your spouse have tremendous difficulty communicating about your children, know that this won't change without you giving in now and then on what you want, and even then, it might not change. If you are going through a divorce and are finding your situation to be hopeless, please call a friend, contact a therapist or a crisis center so that you can avoid any unnecessary tradegies.
11 comments:
Good advice for someone going through a divorce. Finding the right friend can save thousands in legal bills.
People usually decide to get a divorce based on emotion rather than logic which can hinder their long term happiness.
I have some clients tell me that they are on the divorce diet because of the stress that their spouse is putting on them.
It's a truth that divorce can make people think extreme about life, some can think of suiside also.
Very well written post. It is very interesting how you compare both the logic perspective and emotional perspective of getting a divorce.
The logic aspect of it leans more towards understanding the different divorce laws fully.
Sometimes people divorce only based on impulse and not on logic which can really lead to huge regrets later on. When we are angry we should not make big decisions like getting a divorce.
Same goes when we are too excited, happy or intoxicated and end up getting married for no reason :)
There is a very fine line between the logic of getting a divorce and the emotional aspect of it.
I would honestly think the emotional aspect tends to win all the time. Where the logic comes into play is in keeping up with the recent changes in the divorce laws.
These tend to change at all times. This is when the help of a good reliable divorce lawyer comes into play.
Great post!
Good advice, keep family and friends close and use them to help you through tough times.
I represent a lawyer in Houston, and I like reading your blog whenever I have a minute.
Divorce is a huge stress, comparable to death. I wouldn't wish anyone to experience that.
Finding the right friend can save thousands in legal bills.
Thanks for sharing, I will bookmark and be back again
some people need to get a grip.
Nice Post and thanks for the advice it will really going to work a lot for the persons who are going through a divorce because it is the time when person going through a lot of stress. William C. Behrndt
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