Monday, November 24, 2008

Engagement Ring

Every few months a story pops up about a couple of decides not to get married and a demand made by the man requesting return of the engagement ring. Most states consider an engagement ring a conditional gift, meaning that if the marriage didn't happen, then the woman has to return the ring. In theory I agree with this legal argument, but I question whether fault should some how play into the return of the ring. For example, if the man is the cause of the demise of the relationship, does that still mean he should be entitled to the return of the ring? Is there no consolation prize for not marrying the wrong guy? I'm curious to know other people's thoughts on this subject. Should fault come into play when a legal determination is being made about who is entitled to the engagement ring?

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

I was engaged a couple of times and offered to return the ring. One man took it; the other refused and suggested I sell it. That is the right thing to do--return it, just like you would his varsity letter high school jacket.

My husband was engaged before we met and gave his grandmother's ring to a woman but let her know it's a family heirloom and if they didn't marry he'd need it back. She moved on and pretended she couldn't find the ring. His family was (IS) quite upset. She finally said he could drive down and get it. We drove down over a horrible blizzard MLK weekend and when we got there, she refused. We drove 400 miles in a blizzard, when she could have told him she changed her mind before or during our drive there. Mean. My husband is torn up because all he had from his grandmom was the ring that was in his family for generations. She's the one who stepped out when his income decreased because he moved her cross country to her family. This has caused such angst in his family. My husband was a gentleman; she stepped out. He is too nice to make waves and sue her so now his family is very very angry. He's so hurt after being devoted and she was the one who had affairs. I wish this woman would take an honest approach and return the family heirloom. He ever asked if she'd return it to his dad or sister if she didn't want him (or me) to have it. But no, she wants him to feel bad because he moved on and met someone 15 months after they broke up. Ladies, avoid bad karma. Give it back. It helps to let go. I say this from experience. Once I forgave the players I was engaged to, I met a wonderful man and we are happily married. And I treasure my Walmart wedding ring of $100 far more than the 1.25 carat heart shaped diamond I had a decade ago...from a player. I pray that woman chooses honesty and stops hurting my kind husband and his family. We know what is right to do.

Anonymous said...

My fiancee "postponed" our wedding 5 weeks before. A few days later, I caught him cheating on me. Now, about 2 months later, he's threatening to sue me for the engagment ring. I think he needs to pay me all the money I lost on the wedding. I paid $14,000 to vendors for a wedding that didn't happen. And, he's the one trying to sue me for the ring! NOT RIGHT. Florida law needs to be changed.

Anonymous said...

my ex girlfriend and I were dating for about 1yr and 4 months. We got engaged back in December. We recently relocated from new jersey to Florida. She decided that she didn't want this and wanted to go back home. Just 2 weeks ago she decided to go back. I asked if Id be possible that I could get the engagement ring back she replied " I don't have it, I must of left it ". I have text messages and pictures that clearly show that she still has it in her possesion but she just ignores the question. I still have the recepit and bank statements showing that it came from My acccount($2,800). Along with that she cleaned out our bank account and took off with the rent money. Days prior I asked where she find the money for a haircut and a oil change for her car? She replied" my parents gave it to me" little did I know she used the money for the rent, now the landlords are bugging me and I don't have a dime to give? Anyways is there any advice I could get or directions u can guide me to get the ring back and maybe keep my apartment, perhaps small claims or a police report?
Thank you
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Personally, I think when someone gives something to you, they shouldn't ask it back and it should be the receiver's prerogative wheter to keep it or give it back.

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